"He had much respect because the Lord used him...." v1
This struck a chord in me. I have been wrestling with some thoughts that I have had difficulty pinning down, but it has to do with self confidence and self worth, and identity, etc. Specifically when it comes to the psychology of raising children. On one side you read books from Dobson and Lehman and multiple chapters (especially Lehman) are devoted to exhorting parents to build into their children's self worth and confidence, to encourage their strengths and give them opportunity to excel and to be sure and tell them how proud you are of them and how well they are doing, etc.
Something has always not quite sat right with me in that department, even though I was raised with no affection, and a perfectionist mother that I could never please and I craved affection and approval. I also strived for perfection and was never really satisfied with my position, always thinking I could do better, so I do see how lack of encouragement, unconditional love and support is detrimental and unhealthy.
But on the other hand, secular psychology shows that we are dealing with a generation today that has been for the most part raised with very low standards. It was so important to build positive self esteem into a child that the bar was lowered to whatever level necessary in order to praise a child that indeed they are doing great, even if they are really only doing mediocre.
But my point is this. I recently listened to a sermon on parenting and discipleship that really got me thinking and really seemed to hit the nail on the head for me. Yes we want to raise confident children, yes we want to raise children who have hope and vision and confidence. The problem is that we don't clarify where that hope and vision and confidence is to come FROM. We get mixed up. We think they need to be confident in who they have been created to be, in what they can and have accomplished, in what "they" can do.
This sermon just threw that completely on its head and said this is humanism at its simplest. Our children's confidence is not to be tied to who "they" are or what "they" are capable of, but to their identity in Christ and GOD'S grace in wanting to take a MEDIOCRE life and use it to accomplish His purposes.
The focus changes entirely from wanting to be confident about our own personality and accomplishments to wanting to glorify God and praise Him for the great things HE accomplishes and cultivates in us. So we are never "great". Only God is allowed to do greater and greater things in us when we come to realize this and our confidence grows and our vision grows because we come to recognize we are redeemed, and not our own, and if we have any respect and worth it is because "the Lord has used us."
There were several verses that caught my attention but I will just focus on the same as you but from a different perspective... God using those who do not know him and do not seek his guidance. I do not know if I have more to say than that this amazes me and that I do believe in God's sovreign hand over everyone and everything. I know that he brought me to a good place when I was not seeking him so I have seen it in my own life. So powerful that I just cannot fathom Him....
We are reading our way through the bible one chapter per day. The idea behind my personal reading plan is to read through books chronologically, but not solely one book at a time. Thus on Monday we read from the books of the law, Tuesday the books of kings and judges, Wednesday the books of Jewish History, Thursday Books of Wisdom, Friday the Prophets, Saturday the Gospels and Sunday the Epistles. The next Monday we pick up at the chapter we left off in ancient history. You may think that this would be disjointed and would cause you to "lose your groove" but I have found the contrary to be true, the threads of promise, redemption and grace show up more clearly as I make my way slowly through these books in a parrallel fashion and when I pick up where I left off a week before I am reminded of things that stood out to me from last week's reading. Journaling is a big part of my processing scripture and fixing particular tidbits in my mind for the purpose of life application. I would love to have you join me!
Basic Reading Plan
Mon (Law): Genesis-Joshua
Tues (Rulers): Judges-Chronicles
Wed (History): Ezra-Psalms
Thurs (Wisdom): Prov-Jer
Fri (Prophets): Lam-Malachi
Sat (Gospels): Matthew-Acts
Sun (Epistles) Romans-Revelation.
The theme I have given each section is general. Joshua is not a book of the law and Psalms is not a book of history. The main chunk of reading in each section is, however, suitably classified as the theme it is under. In order to make the sections even out to have the same general number of books/chapters, this was the closest I could come. Otherwise one would be reading through certain sections (like the Law) for instance, much more often than the wisdom books, etc.
(Fellowship is) an expression of both love and humility. [It] springs from a desire to bring benefit to others, coupled with a sense of personal weakness and need. It has a double motive – the wish to help, and to be helped; to edify, and to be edified. It has a double aim – to do, and to receive, good. It is a seeking by Christian people to know God better through sharing with each other what, individually, they have learned of Him already. J.I. Packer.
A few introductory words of encouragement....
Think of your time feeding on God's Word as a vital aspect of your health and wellness. You wouldn't go a week without brushing your teeth, or eating physical food, don't treat the nourishing of your soul by the Word of God with any less care.
Don't cram multiple chapters if you fall behind of plan, but *do* "back-read" if you have the passion and earnest desire to do so. My habit if I miss a chapter is usually to leave it until that book comes up again the next week (based on my own reading plan) and then read two consecutive chapters rather than the one I am scheduled to read.
Don't be legalistic about the when and how. If you don't get a quiet time in the morning, THAT'S OKAY. Find a moment in the afternoon to grab a drink, sit down and put your feet up, and soak up a chapter. And if that doesn't happen, THAT'S OKAY. Take 15-20 minutes at the end of the day to plump some pillows up in your bed and soak it up before you go to sleep. And if that doesn't happen, IT'S OKAY. Tomorrow is a new day. Don't let the enemy discourage you from spending time in the word TODAY because you didn't YESTERDAY. That's just dumb. Did you get that? DUMB.
If you don't have time to read, meditate. Allow God to bring a passage of scripture to mind and allow yourself to listen. Take time to be quiet in your spirit. While you are washing dishes, folding laundry, vacuuming... cleaning bathrooms.
Spruce things up. Get yourself a PRETTY journal and jot down little things that stand out to you. Use your favourite mug or a pretty glass to pour your favourite drink. Sit in your favourite spot (this could change from day to day and depending on the time of day you read. A sunny spot on the porch in the morning, a wing back chair and a blanket if it's chilly, a garden swing in the shade on a hot afternoon, or plumped up in bed with soft lamplight in the evening. Again, don't be legalistic about the location, pick a happy spot that fits the moment/opportunity.) Oh, and DON'T wait for the pretty journal. Plain lined notepaper or even a crumpled scrap paper will work just FINE until you get one....
Remember while you read, God's word is FOR YOU. yes, it was written to a particular audience in a particular time in history and for a particular reason. But it was also written with YOU in mind, TODAY in mind, and is designed to give you strength and wisdom for the journey.
Claim ONE part of the passage and take it to heart. Read through the chapter without too much introspection at first and see what part most stands out to you. Go back and look at that part more specifically and ask yourself what is in there for YOU?
Ask relevant questions. I usually look at a passage with 2 questions in mind. 1. What does this passage tell me about God's character? 2. What does this passage tell me about humanity (ie, ME, in relation to God? a final and very important question to ask is "What does this passage require of me on a practical level?" Write down one attitude, practice or truth you want you live out TODAY in light of what God has just revealed to you. This is how we take ownership of the Word of God and allow it to relate to us and shape us on a personal level.
Build yourself a monument. As I ponder a passages relevance to me I journal the thoughts that arise. Jotting them down somehow cements my convictions in my mind, almost like laying out stones in a monument so I can go back to that place later and be reminded. I also use those notes to come here and share my thoughts later with others.
Keep your actual quiet time concise. This will help make it more likely the habit will continue to happen on a regular basis. Better to spend 15 minutes in the word daily, than 1 hour once a week.
Don't require absolute "alone" and uninterrupted time (without kids around). If they are around, they can learn to not interrupt you for 15 minutes, just like you spend time with other people when they are around, you can spend time with the Lord with them around too.
Think of God’s Word as a love letter to you. When you read stories of God’s wrath in the Old Testament, think about WHAT love paid the price for all that wrath and how a hand that once smote anyone who dared touch the ark of His covenant now beckons YOU to draw near to the throne of grace. Read everything in light of who God is and how much He loves mankind that in spite of our being so deprived, His love story reaches out, encompasses us, washes us clean, and seeks to draw us near.
May you seek Him, may He be found by you, and may you be blessed on the journey.
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"He had much respect because the Lord used him...." v1
This struck a chord in me. I have been wrestling with some thoughts that I have had difficulty pinning down, but it has to do with self confidence and self worth, and identity, etc. Specifically when it comes to the psychology of raising children. On one side you read books from Dobson and Lehman and multiple chapters (especially Lehman) are devoted to exhorting parents to build into their children's self worth and confidence, to encourage their strengths and give them opportunity to excel and to be sure and tell them how proud you are of them and how well they are doing, etc.
Something has always not quite sat right with me in that department, even though I was raised with no affection, and a perfectionist mother that I could never please and I craved affection and approval. I also strived for perfection and was never really satisfied with my position, always thinking I could do better, so I do see how lack of encouragement, unconditional love and support is detrimental and unhealthy.
But on the other hand, secular psychology shows that we are dealing with a generation today that has been for the most part raised with very low standards. It was so important to build positive self esteem into a child that the bar was lowered to whatever level necessary in order to praise a child that indeed they are doing great, even if they are really only doing mediocre.
But my point is this. I recently listened to a sermon on parenting and discipleship that really got me thinking and really seemed to hit the nail on the head for me. Yes we want to raise confident children, yes we want to raise children who have hope and vision and confidence. The problem is that we don't clarify where that hope and vision and confidence is to come FROM. We get mixed up. We think they need to be confident in who they have been created to be, in what they can and have accomplished, in what "they" can do.
This sermon just threw that completely on its head and said this is humanism at its simplest. Our children's confidence is not to be tied to who "they" are or what "they" are capable of, but to their identity in Christ and GOD'S grace in wanting to take a MEDIOCRE life and use it to accomplish His purposes.
The focus changes entirely from wanting to be confident about our own personality and accomplishments to wanting to glorify God and praise Him for the great things HE accomplishes and cultivates in us. So we are never "great". Only God is allowed to do greater and greater things in us when we come to realize this and our confidence grows and our vision grows because we come to recognize we are redeemed, and not our own, and if we have any respect and worth it is because "the Lord has used us."
Just my jumbled thoughts this morning.
Love your jumbled thoughts!
There were several verses that caught my attention but I will just focus on the same as you but from a different perspective... God using those who do not know him and do not seek his guidance. I do not know if I have more to say than that this amazes me and that I do believe in God's sovreign hand over everyone and everything. I know that he brought me to a good place when I was not seeking him so I have seen it in my own life. So powerful that I just cannot fathom Him....
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